I just wanted to add a few things that I left out of the last post.
We are NOT giving up or walking away from anything.
I am going to fight with every ounce of my being to rectify this situation.
The fear and anxiety I was (am) feeling came from reading the following words written to me by our agency:
"We are unsure of whether or not you can continue with this adoption. We don't know when we will have this information. You can update and fill out the paperwork, but there is a chance that you may be denied". That sentence is what made my heart skip a beat and made my weekend one long stress fest.
You are all right about one thing:
Our paperwork in China is fine. According to China, we are good to go.
The problem lies in the paperwork we have to file here in the U.S. We must meet the requirements of the USCIS(United States Citizenship and Immigration Services), under the new Hague convention, in order to bring our child back into the states.
One if the requirements of the USCIS is:
That you must currently meet the requirements of the country from which you are adopting.
Therein lies the problem. We do not currently meet the requirements of the country from which we are adopting.
And even though China has told us we are grandfathered in, the U.S. can decide how literally they want to take that one sentence.
I have been all over the internet trying to find some facts, but all I have found is rumors and conflicting information. Some agencies are reporting that people have been turned down.
Others are saying everything should be fine.
I would feel much better if our agency was telling us that everything was going to be fine. But they're not.
Our placement agency told us not to worry. But they only handle the China side. They have nothing to do with the U.S. paperwork.
The whole thing is confusing, and scary. But we will move forward with the paperwork update and I will continue to do research and see what I can do to make sure that we are not denied.
In the meantime, we're going to live our lives. So much of my life has been wasted worrying about stuff I have no control over.
Not this time. As another wise blogger (and friend) recently said : Life is too short.
Thank you so much for all of your comments. They truly do help.