Friday, February 01, 2008

O.K. It's gone. All of it. Thanks for the support and advice. And don't worry. I am not ignoring the problem. Far from it.  There are measures in place to get us back on track.  Something like this doesn't go away on it's own, and you don't stay married to someone for fifteen years by ignoring problems.  Also, to anonymous who had concerns about my ability to parent a child. You think I don't have worries and concerns about parenting a child?  Of course I do.  I also think I have more "issues" to overcome than a lot of people. But you know what?  I worked in childcare for fifteen years and I had serious reservations about many, many of the parents I came in contact with.  My husband and I will make  wonderful parents one day. Regardless of how much money we make, or if I have  health conditions, or even if one or the other of us go through some tough emotional times. I have no worries there.  Way to be supportive. Sheesh. And you know what?  That comment wouldn't have bothered me in the least if you had put your name on it. I never leave comments anonymously. Ever. If I have something to say, I have the guts to stand behind it.   I'm erasing the last week from my thoughts. All I can do is look forward, and start doing the things necessary to get my life back in order again.

7 comments:

Special K said...

I'm glad you took it down. I was worried about it being there with some of the judgemental holier-than-thou types that are out here. I was going to e-mail you and suggest it....but since I haven't been reading here that long didn't really feel comfortable trying to figure out how to say it.

But I'm pulling for you. And I hope everything works itself out.

Kayce said...

I'm glad to hear somewhat of a smile on your face girly! Keep your head up and keep those annons in check! Still supporting you here!

Michele said...

Chin up, shoulders back, one step at a time. That is all you can do. Life is a journey.....

All my best,
Michele

Carol said...

oh I'm with you on the childcare thing...I've been in the childcare field for going on 10 years now and there are some looneys out there! If one more person asks me why in the world I would want more children.....I think I'll hit something!

Carol said...

ps...I caught your blog late, (so I don't know what you are referring to), but just wanted to say that Happly Ever After is for fairy tales.............we all have baggage!!

Hugs! Hope things get better for you.....

Margaret Miracle said...

I first came to your blog through anothers. I was amazed at the raw emotion you shared. It seemed therapeutic for you to just get all of that off of your chest. I am sorry that you received an anonymous message that was so inappropriate. You have been in my thoughts and prayers and I came back today just to check and see how you are doing. I am glad to hear that things are turning around. No one can tell you when you are ready to be a parent. It is trully about how you "weather the difficult times" that will let you know. I will continue to check in and hope all works out for you and your hubby.

Mayken said...

Big hugs! I'm glad you put it out there and equally glad you took it down. You needed to get it off your chest then you needed to deal with it privately. I am always amazed by your ability to put it all out there. Even with all the "drama" it makes me feel good about you to know you can and will deal with whatever comes along. That will make you a great mother. Your daughter will never want for love, even the tough love that calls her on her bs when needs be. Never forget it!
Many blessings as you two move forward from here.
Janice